Frequently asked questions regarding surrogacy

Why are birth control and fertility medications essential for the surrogacy process?

Birth control pills are often prescribed initially to synchronize the surrogate mother’s menstrual cycle with the intended mother’s or egg donor’s cycle. This synchronization is crucial for the successful implantation of the embryo. It ensures that the surrogate’s uterus is in the optimal receptive state when the embryo is transferred.

Fertility medications, such as hormones like estrogen and progesterone, are used to prepare the surrogate’s uterine lining and create a favorable environment for embryo implantation. These medications help thicken the uterine lining and ensure it is receptive to the embryo’s attachment.

Both birth control and fertility medications play a pivotal role in maximizing the chances of a successful pregnancy during the surrogacy process, enhancing the overall success rate. Their proper administration is closely monitored by the fertility clinic to ensure the best possible outcome for everyone involved.

Since marijuana may be legal for recreational or medicinal use in some states, can I use it during the surrogacy process?

When it comes to surrogacy, many agencies and medical professionals advise against the use of marijuana for several reasons:
Legal and Ethical Concerns: Surrogacy arrangements often involve complex legal agreements. The use of marijuana can complicate legal matters and potentially raise ethical questions about the well-being of the unborn child and may be considered a breach.

Medical and Pregnancy Safety: Marijuana use before and during pregnancy can have potential risks to the developing embryo/fetus. There is some evidence that it may be associated with negative outcomes, including low birth weight and developmental issues. Your health and the health of the baby are top priorities during a surrogacy journey.

Agency and Clinic Policies: Many surrogacy agencies and fertility clinics have strict policies against the use of marijuana by surrogates during the pregnancy and sometimes even before the pregnancy and Open Arms Surrogacy is one of them. These policies are in place to protect the health and well-being of the surrogate and the intended parents’ interests.

Intended parents Preferences: Intended parents may have personal preferences and concerns regarding substance use during pregnancy. They may request that surrogates abstain from using marijuana to ensure a healthy and low-risk pregnancy.

It’s crucial to discuss any questions or concerns you have about marijuana use with your surrogacy agency, medical professionals, and the intended parents prior to your official match.

How can I prepare myself emotionally for the separation that happens after the birth of the baby?

Emotional preparation for separation is essential, as surrogacy involves bonding with the baby you carry but isn’t yours. It’s crucial to acknowledge that post-birth separation is a natural part of the surrogacy journey. Here are some steps to help you emotionally prepare:

Set Expectations: Discuss your feelings and expectations with the agency and the intended parents. Open and honest communication can help all parties understand and support each other during this emotional time.

Create a Support Network: Build a strong support network of friends and family who can provide emotional support throughout the surrogacy journey and after the birth.

Focus on the Positive Impact: Remind yourself of the positive impact you’ve had on the intended parents’ lives and your own sense of fulfillment in helping them achieve their dream of parenthood.

Seek Counseling: talk to your agency so they may connect you with a therapist or counselor who will provide strategies to cope with the separation and navigate your feelings.

How can I manage the possible change in communication with the parents once the baby is born?

Communication dynamics often shift after the baby’s birth. Here are some tips for managing this transition:
Discuss Expectations: Before the birth, have a conversation with your agency and the intended parents about how you all envision post-birth communication. Clarify how often and in what manner you will stay in touch.
Respect Boundaries: Understand that the intended parents may need time to bond with their baby and adjust to their new role as parents. Respect their need for privacy and bonding time.

Stay Open and Flexible: Be open to adjusting your communication based on the parents’ preferences. They may want regular updates and photos, or they may prefer occasional updates. Flexibility is key.
Be Patient: Recognize that the communication dynamics may evolve over time. The frequency and nature of communication may change as the baby grows and as you and the intended parents settle into your roles.

Navigating the emotional aspects and communication changes in a surrogacy journey can be challenging, but with understanding, empathy, and open communication, all parties involved can work together to ensure a positive experience for everyone.

What is the difference between traditional and gestational surrogacy?

In traditional surrogacy, the surrogate is also the egg donor, making her genetically related to the child. In gestational surrogacy, the egg comes from the intended mother or a donor, so the surrogate is not genetically related to the child.

How much does surrogacy cost?

The cost can vary widely depending on many factors, including the surrogate’s compensation, medical expenses, legal fees, insurance.

In traditional surrogacy, the surrogate is also the egg donor, making her genetically related to the child. In gestational surrogacy, the egg comes from the intended mother or a donor, so the surrogate is not genetically related to the child.

How is the parental rights transfer process handled?

This process varies by location but typically involves legal steps to ensure the intended parents are recognized as the legal parents. In some cases, a pre-birth order is obtained; in others, post-birth legal procedures are required.

Can same-sex couples or single individuals pursue surrogacy?

Yes, surrogacy is an option for same-sex couples and single individuals. However, they should be aware of specific legal challenges and choose a surrogacy agency and location that is supportive and legally accommodating.

Is surrogacy legal in all states of the United States?

Surrogacy laws in the U.S. vary by state. Some states have clear and favorable laws, while others have restrictions or unclear legal standings. For example, states like Florida and Illinois are known for being surrogacy-friendly with well-established legal processes, whereas other states may have legal barriers or prohibitions.

How long does the surrogacy process take?

The entire process, from finding a surrogate to the birth of the child, can take anywhere from 15 months to 2 years, depending on various factors like legal procedures, medical treatments, and the time taken for successful conception.

How do surrogacy laws differ for international intended parents?

International intended parents need to navigate both U.S. surrogacy laws and the laws of their home country. This includes understanding U.S. citizenship and immigration laws for the child, as well as how their home country recognizes the parental rights established in the United States.