Becoming a parent is a dream for many, but for some, the path to parenthood may be unconventional. That’s okay — and precisely what we’re here for at Open Arms. Surrogacy is a beautiful way to make the dream of parenthood come true. We want our Intended Parents to feel prepared financially, physically and emotionally for this process. (With 20 years of experience in surrogacy, we’ve seen it all!) Here are a few valuable tips from our team to your family to prepare for the surrogacy process.
Emotional Preparation for Surrogacy
Embarking on the surrogacy journey is a significant emotional undertaking. You’ll experience a rollercoaster of feelings, from excitement and anticipation to anxiety and uncertainty. You can prepare by:
Don’t hesitate to lean on your support system! Talk to friends and family about your feelings and concerns. Many intended parents also find solace in support groups, both online and in-person, where you can connect with others who have similar experiences.
Getting Professional Counseling
Consider working with a therapist who specializes in fertility and surrogacy. They can provide you with strategies to cope with the emotional challenges that may arise during the process.
Maintaining Open and Clear Communication
Maintain open and honest communication with your surrogate and/or your agency. Building a strong and supportive relationship with her is key to navigating the surrogacy journey successfully. Be prepared to listen to her feelings and concerns as well.
How to Financially Prepare for Surrogacy
No matter how much we romanticize it, there’s one truth that’s universal for every parent in the world: kids aren’t cheap. Like other types of family building, surrogacy comes with financial responsibilities that you should be prepared for. It’s crucial to plan your finances thoughtfully to ensure a smooth journey.
Understand the costs involved in surrogacy, which may include medical procedures, legal fees, surrogate compensation, and other expenses. Create a detailed budget and stick to it.
Explore Financing Options
Research financing options, such as surrogacy loans or grants, that can help you cover the costs. You may also consider insurance policies to mitigate unexpected medical expenses.
Consult with a Financial Advisor
Seeking guidance from a financial advisor with expertise in fertility and surrogacy can help you make informed financial decisions.
How to Physically Prepare for Surrogacy
Your physical preparation is not limited to the surrogate’s health but also your own. Here are some tips to consider:
Both you and your partner should undergo medical evaluations to ensure you’re in the best possible health. This is not only important for the IVF process but also for your overall well-being.
Keep in close contact with your surrogate to ensure she is following her healthcare provider’s instructions and is maintaining a healthy lifestyle. Her well-being directly impacts the success of the surrogacy.
Create a Healthy Environment
Make your home a welcoming and safe place for the baby. This is the fun part for many Intended Parents! Prepare a nursery, gather baby supplies, and ensure you have a strong support system in place for when the child arrives.
Legal and Emotional Boundaries
Set clear boundaries from the beginning. (If you’re confused by this, don’t worry! That’s what our team is here for.) This includes legal agreements that outline the roles, responsibilities, and rights of all parties involved. Having these boundaries in place can prevent misunderstandings and complications down the road.
The surrogacy process can take time. Be prepared for potential delays and understand that it may not go exactly as planned. Patience is essential in this journey.
Stay informed about the surrogacy process, legalities, and any potential challenges. Knowledge is empowering and can help you navigate this path with more confidence.
Preparing for surrogacy as intended parents is a multifaceted journey that encompasses emotional, financial, and physical aspects. The journey may not be without its challenges, but with the right preparation and support, you can embark on this incredible path towards parenthood. Remember, you are not alone; there are professionals, support groups, and resources available to guide you through this life-changing experience. Embrace the journey with open hearts and open arms, and your dreams of parenthood can become a reality. At Open Arms, we’re excited to guide Intended Parents through this journey. Let’s talk more about your parenting dreams.